My mom leaves guilting messages of I don't hear from you?

I finally ,when she emailed me, emailed her back that those kind of messages just made me feel guilty.

I haven't been here that long, so I don't know much about your family ties. If you think they are toxic, then stick with that for now. If you want to have any contact, might be best to do it through email. Set up a separate account - if it gets to toxic then just elimate the email address. If they have your email address already - create a new one and autoforward from the old to the new. Eventually those you want to have your new address will have it and those you don't want won't.

Anyways I'm not sure that I'm touching on the issue your presented?