Hi doggiedo,

I'm sorry to hear about all the confusion and suffering you are enduring right now. I can certainly see why you feel that way as things seem to have suddenly and drastically changed.

I don't know what is going on with your boyfriend but as you know, men and women often react differently to difficulties. From what you described, I don't see any reason why he should be upset with you. However, he is obviously very upset about something. It could be that he feels if he shares it with you, it might be a topic that will make you upset and that will just compound the matter. Nonetheless, that is no excuse for ignoring you. I imagine he has a lot to learn about communicating. Intimate relationships often require a long time for partners to learn how to interact in a healthy way with each other. Unfortunately, many couples are never able to truly connect and eventually separate.

If you feel like you have the ability to allow him his space and extend him a very generous amount of patience, then you can wait it out and let him work through whatever is bothering him. Honestly, I think you will learn more about who he really is by giving him more time. Either he will do the right thing and reach out to you or he will show himself to be a person who has his own personal problems to work through and he is not ready for a real relationship. Since this is the first time that something like this has happened with him, I think it is fair to give him the benefit of a doubt and grant him a little more time. There is the chance he is struggling with something and he is just not ready to share with you. It could be he is in the habit of handling certain things on his own. When things calm down, you can let him know that communication and trust are essential for your relationship to continue.

I understand that all of this is difficult for you and it is unfair. All too often though, relationships are unfair at one time or another. I say that in reference to all relationships. We all struggle with our own weaknesses and we can hope others will bear with us when our faults slip through. Some people have more difficulty being aware of and controlling their imperfections. If you and your boyfriend get past this and stay together longer, I have a feeling you will be a good influence on him. Hopefully he will be observant enough to appreciate that. I hope things get better for you. For now, try to concentrate on taking care of yourself and maybe he will come around. Take care.