As far as INTJ goes... how we define ourselves has a huge influence on how we act and relate to the world.... I would much rather define myself by my personality type while working on some traits of certain personality disorders.

INTJ's in general don't feel a lot of anxiety... on the contrary, we can be intimidating because we seem so unflappable. I do feel a little anxious at times when thinking about social situations (before and after) but it's becoming less of a problem, and I consider that to be part of my BPD traits.

Some of the cognitive problems you mention concerning PTSD sound very similar to the problems pwBPD traits experience.

For the most part, I function very well in society. I suspect people notice some odd mannerisms and some social awkwardness. And some of that is learned behavior from my parents, as well. Read my "So, I tried to take over a small town thread", and you'll see how I can go over the top at times with arrogance and self-aggrandizing. I've given up thinking I can be part of a social group like Rotary or some committee. I just cause too many problems, and I literally do not know how to work together with people toward some goal. But, not everyone is cut out for such groups.

I've read a little about NPD, so I understand that some develop the traits even though they didn't experience a traumatic experience, but rather because their parents spoiled them rotten... But, even that is hardly the child's fault. And I remember the case of a young man who grew up on in a very wealthy home, and appeared to have been spoiled, but his mother also insisted on bathing him and decided what clothes he would wear well into his high school years. That is definitely abuse, and he was diagnosed with NPD.

As far as this quote "Persistent distorted blame of self or others for causing the traumatic event or for resulting consequences." - I took this to mean that sometimes the victims blame themselves for being molested or sexually abused as children (or whatever traumatic event that was experienced).. and that is clearly distorted thinking. No one would blame the child, but, sometimes the victims do blame themselves.

Anyway.. I run my own business, but I have a hard time "keeping an even keel" as it were. It's either all or nothing. I'm either working really hard, or doing almost nothing.. I'm either bragging, or feeling bad about myself for bragging. It's really hard to think clearly about little ways to get better, or little ways to make the business better... I can do it, I have done it. But, it's something I struggle with. Lately, I'm having a hard time motivating myself. And that's one of the reasons I decided to get back into therapy. Another reason was so I can continue to do better in social situations (and the backlash from trying to over a small town has motivated me to get help). I also love to be the center of attention, and tend to take control of conversations, if people will let me.

I did have a panic attack the other day... My heart was racing... I talked to my T about it and worked out what it was probably about. I don't get then very often, and no one around me would even realize it if I had had one in their presence.