Hi there, I am sending you a big hug, grieving sister!!

I lost my own mother in 1989 and there's just a loss there that time can't heal. If it helps, it took about 8-9 months for that first wave of grief--so physical it felt like my heart was scooped out--to fade away, and about 2 years before I realized I wasn't thinking about her every day. (It made me feel guilty, but that's normal).

What is it about her death that hurts the most? Are you second guessing what you shoukd have done, or missing her presence?

Your brain is missing a huge input here, and it will take time to feel relief. I read that if a person still grieves after 2 years, then to get help.

I literally thought I'd die of Grief after my mother died. Seriously, the only thing that helped me was to walk around the cemetery where she was buried. I'd see headstones of young people, old people, kids, and to know others grieved for them and survived helped. Grief sure does feel lonely.

I wish I could give you a pill to make your pain go away, but then again, your mother deserves to be remembered.

So tell me something about your mother!! What is a nice memory you have of her from happier times??

(((((((Hugs)))))))

She must have been a great mom. What a blessing, to have had a mother who loved you. Some people never get that. And I'm sorry your kids aren't as empathetic as you would like. But people do care. I care. Your father appreciates you, I am sure.