I'm sorry you are struggling so much. I had similar reactions with many psych meds. Effexor and Cymbalta made me a raging *****... Maybe it might help to look at a different med?
Is there anything that tends to help you relax a bit (even if you are still aggitated, but maybe a bit less so?). Would taking some time out by yourself be helpful (away from kids and hubby)? I only ask that because it used to help me. I would take myself away from everyone and everything until the aggitation lessened some. It would not go away, but it made going back to everyone easier after a bit. I would literally lock the dogs and my wife out of my bedroom, pump loud music into my ears that matched my mood, and let it flow out a bit that way.
I hope you can find some relief soon... <3