http://psychcentral.com/psyhelp/ -- Yes, that is the book.
I think the advice to set a time, invite, and hope others come for the party is good.
I am going to wait until I move at the end of the month. I don't know if my internet connection is going to be interrupted, and I know I can't moderate a discussion from Starbucks. Once I know what my living situation will be, I can tackle this.
Plus, maybe it is a good idea to run announcements for 10 days to 2 weeks before chats start. We drop in and drop out of the forums -- and, as you say, we all have trouble remembering. I missed a couple of things that I HAD WRITTEN DOWN --bec. then I forget to read my reminder notes.
I'd like add some negative self-talk here -- like what a dope I am -- but I've read enough to finally understand that depression is cognitively disorienting, it is part of the disease that diables us.