Hi Waiting,
Thank you for your reply,
You sound like you have had a tough struggle in your life, and are learning new ways to come to terms with them,

One of the big problems with many issues whether they are life long, long term or short term is that they all have similar ways of appearing, we always blame ourselves because it's easy to see what has happened after the fact, but the truth is often that both parties are equally to blame, one partner triggers the other, to act in a certain way, the connection couples have, the empathy and love that was, turns in on itself, the connection is still there and the empathy, but you both pick up each others feeling, and because now they are negative, they create a sense of panic,

I trace my issues back to 12 years ago, in a foreign country, Physically ill, and my G/F at the time didn't take kindly to this, she wasn't important to the event but she was the instigator of some very nasty events to follow, kind of killed my trust in humans,
So i was stuck, couldn't leave, couldn't get any help, so i buried it all very deep, and waited it out.
It's not a big issue now, but it's a lot of little things that need cleaning up, and the little things are the things we slip up on.
The Woman who brought me to this realization now, also has a trust issue, in that she can't tell me what i already know, and i needed her to tell me, alike attracts alike, or the negative of that.
so now that everything is fresh again, everything from 12 years ago now sits on the surface, now is the time i do something about it

Thanks