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You experienced real emotion in session, and you kept with it. You said that now you finally got him to admit that he cares about you. How do you feel right now?

Well, he didn't really admit it but I think I felt it in the room.

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You mentioned that you feel bad that he is hurt. Next session (this is your assignment from me, ha ha) I think you need to ask him if he is hurt by what happened. Sometimes we reflect on own feelings onto our Ts, so it's important to check in with him to make sure your perception is accurate, you know what I mean?

Yes, I definitely know what you mean. I need to do that perhaps more than anyone else on this board. I know my perceptions are not always accurate.

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You want to feel comfortable in all of your emotions when you are with T. Anger, sadness, whatever. If you spend too much time feeling bad that you think you made him feel horrible, the full benefit of releasing emotion with your T will be limited. And then you might be scared to do it again in the future.

I agree, I will check in with him. I did ask if he was mad at me at the end and he said that he wasn't. Maybe shocked is a better word now that I am typing this all out. Maybe it wasn't hurt it was shock?


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