i've heard of this happening a lot before. i don't know who was sexually abusing you (i'm asuming you were sexually abused by your comment about your T saying this happens sometimes in incestuous families. am i wrong?). anyway, where i was going with that... if it was your father, for instance, who sexually abused you, your mother may have been very hurt and felt rejected by him as a result. also, she probably had a LOT of guilt over the fact that you were being molested. but rather than taking a protective stance toward you, as an appropriate parent would do, she decided to ease her own mind by telling herself that you somehow deserved what was happening to you- that YOU were being sexually inappropriate.

you did NOT deserve it. you were NOT inappropriate. children are not like that. they are naturally innocent. it is the abusive adults in their lives that are "perverted." a child is not a pervert.

((((Hugs for you)))) <--- if ok. i'm so sorry that you went through this, and that your mother added to your pain in this way. she did not act in a loving or parental way at all

-comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable-