It is hard to learn to believe in ourselves and what we are doing in our lives. The person at our side is supposed to be working on themselves and their life, not ours. Imagine you are in a fight where there are the two of you, you stand back-to-back, wholly trusting the other to protect "their" side completely. Work on becoming completely yourself and you will attract a woman who is completely herself and then you can work together. Work to find a job so you can attract the right woman for you, someone you will be proud to work with, not someone you want to support you so you can get ahead, that's your job.