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Old Aug 03, 2014, 06:41 PM
ETC2014 ETC2014 is offline
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My boyfriend and I had a baby about 10 months ago. Everything is really good between us, we love each other very much, but there's one problem..he hardly wants sex!

At first I thought it was because of the stress of a new baby but it has escalated now to where i have stopped initiating sex altogether as Im sick of being rejected. I have lost all the baby weight and am in the best shape of my life. I don't know what it is.

When baby was about 3 months old my laptop broke and my boyfriend suggested I use his computer. One day I had to find a link that I had visited the previous day and went into the history.BIG MISTAKE! I am completely anti-snooping and always have been. His history was full of porn. What shocked me the most was he was watching it at work nearly every day (he drives around for work so I assume in his car..oh and his computer is linked to his phone and tablet for work reasons). It really upset me.

I talked to him about it and he said he wasnt feeling like himself sexualy so was using porn to get into it again, which im pretty sure is ********. Surely if hes watching porn hes horny. It just seems he wasnt interested in me.

Since then our sex life is getting kind of better. Maybe once a fortnight, but I want more but hes always to tired. Most of time hes wants a bj and doesnt seem interested in getting me off. The problem is that in the back of my mind I know hes probably watching porn everyday. Im usually a very confident person but this has got me feeling the most insecure I have ever felt.

My question is...
Should I stay or go? He has told me porn isnt a problem (addiction) for him, but surely if hes watching it at work it is?
How do I get him to be honest with me?
Is it wrong of me to want to end things because of this?..especially because of our baby.

Please help!!