He tells me that he doesn't feel like getting married and that it will change everything.

He absolutely will not talk about his feelings and will not go to counseling.

But... He will open up to a woman who he has had a emotional affair with for many years. She was friends with him during high school, lost contact and then our teenage boys became friends and her back in our lives. She back stabbed me twice and I told him to quit it with her and he told me he did but I knew better after seeing texts. He has no problems opening up to her or telling her how beautiful she is.

It's hard to think about breaking up when your kid hugs you and tells you that she is so happy her parents are still together.