Okay - put the dishes away and cooked up a bunch of rice and stir fry veggies. Now i have to wash dishes again, but at least i "did stuff" ie actually got out of bed! and now i have fresh healthy homemade stuff to eat. So i did stuff 2 days out of 4, and one of those days (yesterday) was a horrible family contact day. Last night i googled scapegoating and read some stuff and that helped a lot.