ok. just wanted to let you know that i'm not freaked thus far. i'm not sure about church councellors (really i'm not) but i really would imagine that the majority of therapists / councellors are used to dealing with issues around sexual preference (which doesn't have to be a strictly one way or the other way kind of thing).

if it helps you feel any better at all... i have had a couple relationships with girls even though i don't consider myself gay or even bisexual. took a while for me to figure things out and there have been surveys which show that rates of sexual play with members of the same sex are surprisingly high ESPECIALLY for females (though also surprisingly high for males). though... i can't remember the rates. sorry.

are you completely anonymous on this board? what i mean by this is:

- does anybody in real life know your posting name here?

if not then...

- is there any way anybody in real life could find out you post on this board?

if not then things you can do to reduce that (if you use a shared computer) include clearing your history and deleting your cookies (though i'm not sure this site leaves cookies)

even if someone found that you had visited this site they wouldn't know you posted here unless they read one hell of a lot of posts (how many posts are posted here in one day do you think?) AND managed to figure things out on the basis of what you said. pretty darned unlikely...

so...

some people find that once they can be confident in their anonymity they find the confidence to say things on boards that they don't have the confidence to say in real life. sometimes people practice to see how people on boards respond and if people respond positively then they find the courage to say some of that stuff to people in real life. if you get sucky judgemental unhelpful responses on boards then yeah it can hurt that is true. but... you can write us off as a bunch of assholes and you most certainly haven't lost as much as you would have stood to loose in real life (you never have to interact with us again or even if you do you could deregister and sign on as a new user hence we wouldn't associate the two and if we saw you in real life we certainly wouldn't know you were coco34.

So...

Share if it helps. you might be surprised to find...

Others who have been through similar.