Okay I haven't been on here for a while because I have been trying to make things work with my wife. I didn't make an appointment for the doctors because I went on a huge downer and chickened out as usual. Things aren't exactly moving fast, but they are moving. I have asked her if she is happy and if I can do anything to make things in our relationship better and she said she is happy but just tired with work etc. That is understandable and I don't want to push her. Things have happened..... not going into gory details but I think there may be hope still. I know I haven't necessarily followed everyone's advice or replied to everyone. But I would like to take this moment to thank you all for your support and advice. It is because of you guys that I am approaching it in the way I am. So thank you.