The same has come to me in several forms 'I can't take every single sharp thing from the world away from you'. 'It has to be YOUR choice'. That was freeing in a way - and took me from that childhood place of "I need someone to keep me safe" to "i am doing this to myself for certain reasons. only i can choose to keep me safe, even if that means i have to let others keep me safe from myself for a night or 6.
best to you in your battle/quest.