Hmm, I think "civil" war may be a bit of a misnomer, lol.

My old t helped me to develop skills around talking to parts and beginning to see "bad" parts as having their own needs and motivations... that while I might now understand them, developed in an effort to protect "me". Otoh, being subjected to nasty criticism from an introject just stinks, period, just like it would if it was a f2f person being mean. It can be very wearying.

I think part of what was so amazing with canceling my last session if that all parts were able to pretty speedily reach a consensus on how to deal with the situation and there have been no complaints or recriminations since. Usually there will be a lot of internal second quessing, no matter what I decide. But for some reason, everyone seems content with the decision that was made... I think a lot of it is that I am finally where I trust my therapist to "be there" for me... an object constancy thing. So parts of me were able to say to other parts "Hey, she'll be there next week, there's no reason to stress yourself by forcing yourself to go in NOW -- she'll still be there. That's such a new thought/ feeling it seems a trifle miraculous!

Wow, I'm 32 and finally have reached the developmental maturity of, say, a 4 y o?!?!? :-)

Hope you are having a good day! M