I hear you Mouse! Seems to me your workmate's comment was made innocently without any intention to humiliate or shame you. Good for you to have the insight about it being a transference issue...something to discuss with t obviously....That deep sense of shame, oh yeah, one of the core issues that wreak havoc in our relationships....we build defenses against the dreaded shame....but you're doing great at remaining present with the shame and working hard at untangling the knots...