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Originally Posted by Pfrog
I would not ... I repeat ... I would not allow this brother to live with me ... If the parents ask why, simply tell them that your brother knows why and that it's not up for further discussion.
I am also a survivor of incest and abuse by older siblings (as well as my parents) and decided the best way to take care of my physical and emotional well-being was to cut off all contact completely.
This was not an easy thing to do, nor is everyone willing or able to take this route. However, it has served me very well.
Wishing you the best in your healing & recovery process.
Sincerely,
Pfrog!
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Thanks Pfrog, I'm glad you were able to do that, it must of taken some strength! I don't know what my problem is, I always feel so damn bad for them all. (They all still live together btw). My brother was never once independent from my parents. They are really bad with money, I felt bad when I thought they would loose the house, I feel bad if they can't make payments, I feel bad because even tho all that **** went down with my brother, I don't hate any body and I want every one to 'be okay' in the end (seriously, I went through many years of being angry, wanting to tell my parents just why I was so effed up and was obviously such a huge embarrassment to them for a long time). But I won't get that chance to ever justify myself, so I just keep feeling like I have to do better and better...
Okay anyways, I have no idea where that is going...
I won't let him live with me... I like what you said 'he will know' but that will raise more suspicion than I am comfortable with.