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Old Aug 04, 2014, 03:39 PM
SnakeCharmer SnakeCharmer is offline
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My only suggestion is to try to practice emotional detachment from them so you don't suffer from emotional turmoil and resentments when they behave in ways you don't like.

And maybe try working on accepting them as they are -- flawed humans who are not going to be there for you -- and then going on with your life trying to get the support you want from other sources, improving your own lot and taking care of yourself as best as you can.

If I waited for my siblings to support me, I'd be waiting forever. My personality and lifestyle offend them. I live differently than they do and I happen to like my life, but they can't imagine anyone with values so different from theirs. So it goes.

They're the way they are and I'm the way I am and I have no desire at all to conform to the family values I fled from as soon as I graduated from high school.

I became a lot happier within myself and stopped feeling hurt when I finally decided to just accept that I was never going to get support from them, no matter what I did. So I stopped trying. It's been okay ever since then.

But it didn't happen over night. It took a couple years to learn how to detach emotionally without being critical or to accept them as they are without some internal demand that they should be different. As a result, I could feel the love that was always there inside me and feeling love and acceptance feels a whole lot better than feeling hated and rejected.

I hope you work this out and can learn to stop resenting your sisters and father for not supporting you. I'm sure you don't to conform or bow down to them or be like them. So just let go of it all and accept that they don't know how to support a free spirit like yourself and you really will start feeling better.