Hi, Lallenel, and welcome to Psych Central! I honestly don't think you should have sent her a message at all, since you are married and she is single. She might not have given how you acted a second thought, so she didn't need any explanation. She might have seen your message as sort of making a play for her.

Plus, she likely felt you are trying to make her feel bad about being a single mother. And your remark about "congratulations" didn't help.

And she didn't need to hear about your issues with procreation. After all, it does deal with sex, albeit a bit indirectly.

All that said, my sis and her husband weren't able to have children, so my sis had a hard time dealing with the birth of my children. But she never talked to me about it at all. I had a right to have any children I could, and I am sorry she couldn't. But she rightly didn't try to make me feel bad about it.

Okay?

Let's see what other folks have to say about it.