I am in desperate need of help from all of you. I am 41 years old. I am on my 2nd marriage. I definitely have a trust issue...but do you guys believe in "woman intuition"? Well, it led me to go to my husband's job and access his voicemail. The same "unknown" woman left numerous messages for him. I confronted him on it, like a dummy, and he completely denied it all, said I was crazy. I wouldn't drop it...said let's go to your work together and listen to the messages...if this marriage meant anything. He refused. Turned in around on me...my fault. Left the house, went to his job, erased the messages and changed his voicemail password. I access his work email all the time...but he changed it 4 months ago and doesn't know I know it. His ex-secretary sent him some (fully clothed) pole dancing pics of her. The thing is, on Sat, he sent her an email asking where the pics were. He deleted the message, but I know how to retrieve it. He doesn't know I know about them and I can't confront him....I can't! What bothers me is she calls him a lot but never mentions it to me and now these pics. He comes home and acts like nothing is wrong. Never mentions her to me AT ALL! He always prides himself on being an honest, Christian man. Should I do a prank-call on her and say something? My stomach is upset! He says our relationship is on ME...if I don't show him love, then....but I have a hard time showing love when I know this is going on.....I am so upset. Am I wrong for always checking his phone, emails, etc....UGGGGG, he says this whole relationship is on me...whether it works or not...but I cannot let him know I know about the pics. I just can't!