This makes me so angry at the mental health, insurance, and law fields! C'mon people! Get your **** ING act together. Do they have any concept of how their incompetence has affected people's lives? But, I'm sure you know it's very unlikely you have NPD. You sound like someone who was understandedly traumatized, then misdiagnosed and misunderstood.

Do you have a support network in place? Friends? Family? Support group?