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Pink, your session went well. I am curious about the CBT joking. Are there therapists who are believers and those who are not?

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I would say so. In my classes, my professors ask us what school of thought we would like to follow once we become therapists. Normally, like 90 percent of the class chooses CBT. I think people are generally more comfortable with a technique that is a more direct route to problem solving. I wouldn't say I'm not a 'believer' in CBT-- it depends on the client, I guess. Some people are going to come in with a problem that is fit for more immediate results. However, in general, I don't believe in a technique that doesn't examine the 'why' piece. I am also not a fan of therapies that don't deal much with feeling. CBT is about your feelings as a function of your thoughts. There is no transference, no defense mechanisms, no dream interpretation. Of course, I am describing someone who would be strictly CBT. A lot of therapists these days are eclectic in nature and will combine many techniques and theories. But as far as my T and me-- we are not big believers of CBT. The school I go to is psychodynamic in orientation-- but they do teach some CBT in the 1st counseling techniques class, to get a basis for it. The 2nd techniques class is all about psychanalysis and object relations. The doctoral program is psychodynamic. That's what I want to go there for my Psy.D. The other school I was looking into is completely CBT and that doesn't excite me too much.

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Anyway, I'm glad you were able to talk about sex with him. I like also that he was laughing with you. Perfect!

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Ugh. I know that I have completely transferred my attraction to older men onto him. And it's complete transference. I mean, he's an okay looking man, but I don't think I would be attracted to him if I just saw him on the street. I think that's why I am obsessed with making sure I look perfect before I go to therapy each week. **Embarrassing confession of the month coming up** Because I want him to find me attractive. I would enjoy it if I could make him attracted to me. (Dying here....) I even feel this weird attraction when I see men outside of therapy that resemble him in any way. THIS IS SO HORRIFYING. And now I think he knows this based on what we talked about yesterday. I mean, he knows this happens in analysis. I know this happens in analysis. And based on the fact that I told him I have always been drawn to older men, and men in a position of authority and I'm much more interested in getting other men to be attracted to me rather than my husband, because I've already accomplished that, then I'm pretty sure he put 2 and freaking 2 together.

I don't even think I can look at him on Friday. Unless he's completely clueless and he's not thinking any of this.

Yeah.
Right.