So sorry you all went through that. Screaming matches are draining and traumatic. I think there are a lot of deeper feelings that aren't being said. I think there is definitely love there between daughter and father, as well as hurt feelings. If I were in your husband's situation, I would write her a letter from the heart. Tell her that you love her, tell her you want her to be in your life. Tell her your feelings were hurt because she acted like she didn't want to be there, etc. Send the letter and then step back and let things happen as they may. I hope that helps. I hope you all find your way back to each other.