I just thought I was a normal ambitious guy, until I met with a marriage counselor with my wife. Eventually we started meeting separately. I told him about my childhood, and then said I wondered if there might be some issues I needed to work on, because of my traumatic childhood (I even mentioned that I thought was likely that I had to have some issues, because I experienced so much trauma). And I noticed I was very combative with him at times, and sometimes felt embarrassed by my behavior. He started hinting at BPD and NPD (It was the first time I ever heard of either disorder) traits.... I seem to remember he slyly let me see the diagnosis that had been sent to our insurance company. But, he still never told me he thought I had the disorder, or that he had diagnosed me.

I hated him for that. To me, it sounded like an insult.