Darling Lunatic Soul, I am going to talk to you from the perspective of an older woman who has had much life experience and who has been told in detail the sex secrets of many men and women. I am one of those people that complete strangers will talk to intimately. I don't know why.

First, there is nothing wrong with a 21 year old virgin woman to think about sex a lot and to long for that intimate connection with someone she loves. It doesn't matter whether you have an imperfect figure -- most women do. Even with our imperfections we can be lovable, adorable, sexy and desirable.

What matters is this: If your boyfriend is a fanatic about not wanting pre-marital sex for religious reasons and you know this about him, it would be wrong for you to seduce him against his will.

If he is a normal young man, he has impulses and urges, too. It would not be hard for you to seduce him in time, just by being close to him and making yourself available. Unless he is very harsh with himself, he would find his resistance fading.

And then what? After the seduction, he would feel guilt and shame and resentment at you for tempting him into doing something his body wanted but his mind and heart did not want to do because of his religious values. Then you would probably find yourself alone and ashamed of yourself because the relationship failed. Or even worse, there would be repeated angry and shamed sexual encounters that might bring a physical release but not much intimacy.

Sex can be a beautiful thing that increases love and intimacy between two people. For it to be like that, both partners must feel willing and full of desire to please each other and to enjoy these wonderful moments together.

If your boyfriend is a fanatic about wanting to remain pure until marriage, I cannot see how seducing him against his will would improve your relationship. He may not be the right boyfriend for you. Or he may need to loosen up his strict ideas about sex before you can find sexual intimacy with each other.

It would be a good idea to talk with him about sexual desire and intimacy and about how you feel, while allowing him to freely say how he feels, without criticism or shame. Perhaps that way the two of you could decide together if you wanted to share your first sexual experience with each other. That would be much better than either of you seducing an unwilling soul.

In the meantime, you might consider self-pleasuring yourself in the privacy of your room or bath as a way to release sexual tension. There is nothing wrong with that and it may help you explore what gives your body pleasure and release.

I wish you the best of good fortune and a long life of intimacy, love and pleasure..