Hi, Living in Chaos. Anniversaries can be tough. I honestly think you are making things harder on yourself by having unrealistic expectations. For example, you don't need to feel guilty about not being torn up over your grandma's passing. She had lived a long life, and if you are a religious person, then you know she is now in a better place. Plus, you were still numb from what happened the day before.

And it is possible that your grandpa might have responded a bit when he was in a coma had you come. But that doesn't mean he would have come out of it. Plus he had lived a long life, too, and was likely suffering.

Okay?