The place where I got hung up in your post was here:

Oh, dear. Here's a notice to all fathers, step-fathers, uncles and grandfathers: Keep your hands off the bodies of teenage girls. Stay out of their faces. Your attentions are not only unwelcome, they give the message that the girl has no right to her own body space.

Your husband blew it. He doesn't recognize proper boundaries. When a girl asks you to stop touching her body, you stop. He didn't. Her reaction may have been crude and disrespectful, but it was the right reaction. Men who keep grabbing deserve a fist in the face and ordered to F****** stop. At 16, she's old enough to stand up for herself. Good for her. And shame on your husband for forcing her to such drastic actions and emotions.

Yeah, the girl's behavior is obnoxious and maybe her mom doesn't say nice things, but there's nothing either you or your husband can do about that. But he can change the way he interacts with her. He's so tone deaf when it comes to parenting a teenage girl that it's no wonder she was in such an ugly mood after being alone with him all day.