Your relationship started as so many do "everything is wonderful and the love is flowing " Thats normal .. the honeymoon phase wears off and then the real person begins to appear.

His needs to always be right or know more than you.
His porn issues that make you feel terrible about yourself
The huge disagreements in basic views.
His lack of concern when you lost your job and he felt you needed to get over it quicker?
Him and that other woman the whole go for drinks and he winds up staying the night with her naked ? Why didnt he call you to come get him .. Why stay there ?
Him driving reckless while in your car even when you have asked him not to .
So much lack of respect.

The whole "tone " of your post screams of problems .

You were in a abusive relationship in the past ... Well this sounds just as abusive .. hes using words not fists is all. ..Its all still unhealthy and it almost always gets worse..

Only you can decide what you want in your life.