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I don't believe in a technique that doesn't examine the 'why' piece. I am also not a fan of therapies that don't deal much with feeling. CBT is about your feelings as a function of your thoughts. There is no transference, no defense mechanisms, no dream interpretation. Of course, I am describing someone who would be strictly CBT. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Anyway, I'm glad you were able to talk about sex with him. I like also that he was laughing with you. Perfect!

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Yes, I'm with you here. My guy is pretty much CBT for depression and ADD. Interestingly, when I first told him about my attachment to him and how it was affecting me. The first thing he said was "thank you for trusting me with that" and the second thing was in response to my shock of how did this happen? He said "I couldn't get you to see anything good about yourself and now your happier, running, losing weight, passing exams etc."

Yes you guessed it another vague answer. This was last September that the above conversation took place. I'm guessing this is the reason for the transference cycle because he used that to inspire my changes is what I'm gathering from remembering this earlier conversation.

He says he is using psychodynamic therapy now and has been. So the transference and different therapy is what I needed and we spent weeks on CBT. I have tried to use this but it doesn't work for me. I still keep trying though and talk back to my thoughts but they are still there.</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>

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**Embarrassing confession of the month coming up** Because I want him to find me attractive. I would enjoy it if I could make him attracted to me. (Dying here....) I even feel this weird attraction when I see men outside of therapy that resemble him in any way.

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Another comment that I totally understand. Same thing happening to me here. I'll go a bit further since you brought it up first! I have not actually said these words to him. I keep telling him that mainly my attraction is friend or family-like. That is because I am trying hard to keep the thoughts there. But it doesn't work and I'm afraid to tell him the absolute truth. I mean really how does one say this to a therapist "I want you to want me"....

Hey, there is a song entitled this. Maybe I can play it at my next session. After the one we just had, he'll lose it for sure!!!