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Originally Posted by ~Christina
Your relationship started as so many do "everything is wonderful and the love is flowing " Thats normal .. the honeymoon phase wears off and then the real person begins to appear.
His needs to always be right or know more than you.
His porn issues that make you feel terrible about yourself
The huge disagreements in basic views.
His lack of concern when you lost your job and he felt you needed to get over it quicker?
Him and that other woman the whole go for drinks and he winds up staying the night with her naked ? Why didnt he call you to come get him .. Why stay there ?
Him driving reckless while in your car even when you have asked him not to .
So much lack of respect.
The whole "tone " of your post screams of problems .
You were in a abusive relationship in the past ... Well this sounds just as abusive .. hes using words not fists is all. ..Its all still unhealthy and it almost always gets worse..
Only you can decide what you want in your life.
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I see what you're saying.
Just to clear this up: the whole deal about him sleeping over with this girl, he couldn't have called me because I was still living with my ex at the time and I was hiding the fact I was hanging out with Nathan. My ex would've flipped - which he eventually did, and they got into a fist fight one night, but it wasn't that night.
I'm just trying to be fair here; What Nathan told me about the situation made sense. He said he was very afraid of telling me of what had happened because it was so early in our relationship, he was afraid it would ruin it, and I'd leave. He accepted all blame, he never once tried to defend himself or come up with excuses. And after this isolated incident, he never again did anything of the sort - he actually never even made friends with any other woman. He also completely erased this girl from his life. We're together practically all the time, he wouldn't even have time for an affair if he wanted to.
I know there are a lot of red flags in this relationship... but I honestly, honestly don't think he's an abusive person. We disagree and argue a lot, and he was insensitive a couple of times, but in no way that leads me to think this can't be worked out.
What would lead me to think this couldn't be worked out was if he'd truly not be willing to change or put in any effort anymore. He's hard headed, like me, and he IS entitled and arrogant - but not abusive.