I dont think you have the same values and goals. Do you even like each other that much? You arent living by your own values, like helping the girl lie to her date, or throwing parties you cant afford. And his driving crazy - my first ex-h used to do that, and almost got me killed or severely injured a couple of times. He would have preferred losing me that way to the shame of a divorce. Really, get out while you can. Start over. Get therapy.