I heard that being the partner of a military man is the worst. They're always the ones who tend to have psychological and emotional problems, because of the training they had to go through.

Unfortunately, to be realistic, I think it would take years of serious therapy to get your husband to be an emotionally stable person again. The behaviors you described sound like the symptoms of a much worse underlying psychological problem.

That's what the military does to men - makes them think they have to be macho all the time, and if they're not this specific kind of person, they're worthless...

I personally would never marry a military man.

Good luck to you.