Hi-

It is becoming quite clear, via T, that I have major issues in creating boundaries with people in my life. These include my mom, my bf, his child, other family members. I need to learn how to do this as my issues/anxiety/depression, while being helped by meds, are being affected by NOT having boundaries.

My T said I should allow my BF to "own" his child's behavior (a teenager). She said the child is not mine, so I should not get involved. I like this idea. T also said that if I do not like how BF is treating me, I should say "I want a BF who does "X" (ie, return my calls, has 10 minutes to talk to me in a a five day period, etc nothing over the top). I do not want to be in a relationship w/ a guy whom cannot do "x", or will not try to do "x".".

How do you all create boundaries? Thanks in advance!