I come from a long line of idiots; a real damaged bunch who won't address anything. They are not going change. I've tried to improve these relationships only to feel bereft. T told me to stop banging my head against the wall and it will stop hurting. So, the strategy I/we have devised is to purely keep a safe distance and minimize contact. It is working, but it makes me so sad. I have to maintain my sanity and that, I am just realizing, is more important and very valuable. "Those who make your angry control you"......I just saw that on a billboard today. It's totally sucks now being an "only child". Someday, I hope to find heathy connections to satisfiy this major loss. It's actually like a mourning process.