I see this is your first post - so Welcome!

I think one step at time is the way to go. Stop all comunication with your ex-boyfriend. Any contact with him will just cloud your judgement.

Divorce, unfortunately, will not stop the anger or dwelling on this event. I went through a divorce and my wife was at home - she is now a student getting lots of aid to help her finish. Our divorce was related to each of our mental conditions.

By the way if you want to stay in it - all correspondance - voice mails, emails, etc should be monitored and he should not have a problem with this. If he does then he doesn't place the marriage very high.

And yes I would give the same advice to a guy who found out his wife cheated.

A man who hates seeing others fail in their fidelity.