Growing up I was well above average when it came to intelligence and I not only knew it myself but I was constantly told so by parents, relatives, friends later on, etc. I always felt that the education system was holding me back more than anything else, I learned most of what I know from independent research and was smarter than most of the adults in my life. I thought of myself as a miniature adult and it drove me insane that my idiot neighbor could vote and I couldn't even though I was way more qualified. Thanks to Asperger's Syndrome I did not have the social skills necessary to succeed in middle school and that led to extremely vicious bullying. Even during that I had a very strong sense of self and preserved my own identity against everyone who wanted to beat me into submission. I eventually taught myself how to interact socially and went from being at the bottom of the social strata to the top like in that movie "The New Guy." (Without the part in the beginning with the librarian) Since then I have excelled at my major and minor in college to the point where I have almost achieved rock star status in the respective departments. In fact the most narcissistic person I have ever met told me "I hate being in class with you because when I am I'm only second best." On top of that I have an active social life in contrast to what I had before which is a source of pride for me. I took the narcissistic personality inventory test on psych central and the results suggested that I was a narcissist in every category but one, vanity. I have never been comfortable showing off my body but my intellect is a completely different story. I always want to make sure everyone knows I'm the smartest person in the room, I corrected teachers growing up and even one of my professors once. The only time I ever doubt myself is when I have multiple failures at a particular endeavor, recently it has been my foreign language class which was torture and my dismal record with women. In those two categories I have very low self esteem but it is compartmentalized. In most of the other aspects of my life everything is going incredibly and I know it. Am I an atypical narcissist or is this just normal self-esteem?
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