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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
It's not a "conscious defense" Teacake. It is very different from "lack of empathy" too.
If a person is truly expressing "empathy" then the person on the receiving end should not get "upset" by it. If one is "empathetic" it means they are "fully aware" of all weakness and can express it in a way that the other person feels "heard and comfortable". It is harder when doing it in a scenario where one doesn't "know" the person very well however or has physical tells to consider.
OE
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Empathy means feeling into. It is perception. It has nothing to do wirh the other person feeling comfortable being felt into. I mean, maybe Its bad ethics to feel into people who object to it just like we dont touch without permission. Im just sayi g empathy is the perception, like touch, not the quality of the touch experienced by the other. A poker player or cop or conman can use empathy too.
My dad was comfortable wirh me. My boyfriend was comfortable wirh me. My son wanted to know if I could "read his mind" and was curious about how i knew what I knew. My sister didn't block it but it surprised her too. Only my mother and Mike, both borderlines, felt violated.
It makes me sad.