ok. so im not sure if this is going to make sense. i am bipolar. i posted this here because my girlfriend is a sex addict. she has been to counseling. I need some advice on how I can better fulfill her needs. sometimes my sex drive is on par with hers and other times its not even close. when I am depressed I could care less about sex. here is the strange part tho. although I could care less about the act of having sex I still look at porn, hentai, or whatever else, our talks still remain very sexual. this is confusing for both of us because she gets worked up through out the day and when I come home i would rather read, cook, watch a movie, relax.

second thing. when I am in my manic phase, my sex drive tends to match hers pretty closely. I still do have a fear or not being able to perform to her wishes though. and even tho I am thinking constantly of sex, and cant wait to be intimate with her the moment I get home the anxiety takes over.

two questions.

does anyone have anything similar when they are depressed. has anyone i don't want to say forced but made themselves more sexually active during depression but without viewing the act or their partner negatively afterwards or during.

question two. i have openly discussed my fear of not being able to please her, she has told me no one has really come close except for me. sometimes I do feel forced. has anyone come up with a way to look at being more sexually active with their partner in a positive light.

i do feel terrible, she is smart and damn attractive. and sometimes the pressure is a lot. when i am depressed and I have not done anything sexual with her the day or days before and I know she is in need I feel really bad. and in my mind idk what the block is. its confusing.

sex with her has been the most fulfilling to me and the most open to exploration.

_reposted from sexual addiction forms. I didnt get a any responses._