Look at it this way. Now that you have a diagnosis you can receive appropriate treatment which will hopefully lessen the severity of either pole. I think people will interpret the term acceptance differently. I find routine very useful. It's just habit now when I take my meds and I don't even think about it. As for confiding in other people. I don't. Just don't want the stigma with my friends. As for disputes with my husband over anything BP Related I just remind myself in my head that's HIS opinion and he's not BP. Really helps to find a good psychiatrist that you trust. I went through a few until I found "the one". He's a keeper. It never goes away you're right. I've never asked why me. It just is what it is. I'm a functioning human being who has relapses every now and again that impair my functioning but with the right balance of meds I can go through normal mood episodes in between.