It isn't really a mental health problem (I suppose), but I didn't know where to post it.
I have never felt at the same 'level' of the other girls of my age, and neither I do now (I'm 22). For example, during adolescence you should begin to become more indipendent, or at least to want it...usually you begin to enjoy the company of your friends more than that of your parents. For me it didn't happen. Usually my parents tried to push me to go out more with friends, but I wasn't happy to go. Probably also the fact that I hadn't found the 'right' friends for me yet contributed to this...but also now, that I have some friends that I really like to stay with, in general I still feel more at ease to stay with my parents, expecially my mum, than with my friends, and I prefer to share an important moment with her. If I need a suggestion about anything, for example about a dress or something else that I'd like to buy, I want the suggestions of my mum, not those of my best friends. I don't know if it's normal
And I have zero experience with boys. Most of my friends already have a boyfriend, or maybe thay don't have one now but in general they always go out with someone. I hadn't, never. Some girls at my age already live with a boy. I wouldn't like it so soon, but at least to find someone yes. I'd like it, but at the same time I don't know if I'd be ready, expecially for the physical aspects (not necessarly sexual, also physical in general).Sometimes I think that I'd be ready (if I found someone), other times not. But if I'm not ready now when will I be?? I'm not a teenager anymore...I just can hope that when/if I'll be in love with someone this will change.
But the point is that I don't feel like an adult at all
I've never had a work experience. Also because study wouldn't let me the time, but however I wouldn't feel ready. But after finishing university I'll have to begin, I can't be 'not ready' forever. Now I started volunteering and this can be a first step, but it has been difficult to begin, also if I wanted. For most of the girls that I know these things are't so difficult.
The first part of the problem is what makes me worry more. It wouldn't be a problem for me to go on spending more time with my family that with friends, because I like it, but I feel that at my age I shouldn't. I should at least enjoy to stay with friends a bit more.
Do you think that it is really a bad thing, as I think? Should I do something to change? But I don't know what I could do