Thanks Lulu. I know I can't change how her mom is. There has to be strategies I can equip the daughter with. Either helping her to take the message and brush off the tone. Other ways to approach her mom. I don't know. Until I figure it out I'll keep listening.

It's sad that a google search with stepdaughter in it brought up all sorts of results about how they're brats or stepmom can't stand step daughter. Breaks my heart