Have you read the "Love Languages" book?

(I *think* this is the one I read... but if you put "Love Languages" into your favorite bookstore or library searchbox, you should get a bunch of stuff back. This guy seems to have written a ton of spinoff books from this original idea...

The Five Love Languages How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (Now with a Comprehensive Study Guide): Gary Chapman: 9781881273158: Amazon.com: Books )

Anyway - I thought the book was awesome (and should be available at your local library). He talks about the different ways that people feel appreciated and loved, and how we all have a primary (and sometimes secondary) ways that are important TO US.

So, if "gifts" is important to you, personally, you'll feel loved and understood and cared about when someone expresses that through gifts, even small ones. Versus, someone who feels loved by "words of appreciation" or "quality time".

Really neat book, it might give you some ideas and help you better understand the "language" of the people that you want to express your gratitude and love towards...