My husband is like that. He doesn't know how to be quiet. When I try to read he keeps asking me questions or turns the TV on so loud I can't concentrate. I understand how you can be angry about the lack of consideration. I have to really reel in my anger at times. But he does to other thoughful things for me so I forgive him for these. Well he does have a few other things that bother me, but I think I may be a little OCD(undiagnosed)

My story doesn't really help you with yours but it just lets you know you are not alone.