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Old Aug 07, 2014, 03:12 PM
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Hi TJ, going over confrontations later in your mind could be a good thing, if it leads you to feeling a little more comfortable with them were they to happen. But there's that line between going over them and, going over them. Sounds like it all kind of snowball's for you, sometimes??
Then maybe it could be a bit about the point you start at, the feelings you have at the time you're starting to go over them??? Maybe start with "Well I did my best at the time", now "What could I do better if there's a next time" and "What did I do well".
Because guaranteed there's going to be some things you did well that you can keep going/building on, and that you should be giving yourself real credit for. So don't you dare skip that bit!!
And find yourself a point where you can let go, even if you tell yourself I'll come back to thinking it over in half hour......an hour......and just do something to ground or distract yourself.
And hey, make sure you have a "space allocated" to file confrontations that have gone PRETTY **** EXCELLENT, because the one with the nurse should definately be somewhere near the front there!!! And pull it out and look at it at times, too!!!
As for the imagery it sounds like it's working for you a bit when you use it?? Maybe just practice will help it come along a bit more?? Sometimes it can take a while to kind of "internalize" things so as they're more accessible when we need them. So keep working on it?? And it is a nice bit of imagery you have there
Well........hopefully it will go for you well tomorrow, but don't forget if the crisis team are a bit slow in getting things moving...........it is just a matter of time.........you will eventually get your leave...........just about sitting it out, and you've sat out much longer waits, right?!!

Alison
Thanks for this!
ToeJam