Both my husband and I are BP most of the time we don't match up. But we still text each other things and stories throughout the day, plan romantic night's and atleast try forplay every night/morning. Someone is bound to get some relief at some point and if we both get to aggravated there's always the evening or morning to try again. Invest in a lot of forplay time. It doesn't take much effort, you don't have to be into it just enjoy watching her there's also extended games you can play. Please don't force yourself it ends the relationship baf.