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I've always had trouble making and keeping good female friends my whole life. Now I'm 42 and I only have three friends in real life that I see once a month if I'm lucky. Although I'm shy and introverted, I try to talk to other women at meetups and I'm not overly picky when it comes to befriending someone who wants to be my friend. I'll hang out with just about anyone who seems nice and sincere regardless of age usually. As long as we have a few things in common, then that's good enough for me.
I'm nice, loyal, caring, kind, supportive, a good listener, fairly easy to talk to, open minded, fairly non-judgemental, not competitive, catty, or that much of a gossip, so why would it be so hard for me to make female friends? I have met women at meetup groups who seem nice at first, but then as time goes on, it becomes more obvious that they were only being nice and polite towards me and that they don't really want to hang out with me outside the group.
A lot of women have told me to that they'd call or email me or they'd ask me to call or email them and then they never ended up responding to me. I feel very hurt, annoyed, and frustrated by all of this. It seems like most women try to look for friends that are almost like them in as many ways possible such as having similar personalities, similar jobs, similar lifestyle (example....if a woman has kids, they seem to prefer hanging out with other women with kids, and if they're single, they prefer to hang out with single women).
I'm married but I don't have any kids, so I'm in a very different group from most women out there. Why would all this matter so much to other women? As long as you like the same things and have the same values and your personalities aren't to different from one the other person, then why should any of that matter?
Do any other women on here, especially around my age have a hard time making friends with other women? Also, it seems like once any woman of any age gets a b.f or gets married, they disappear and forget about their friends most of the time. Ugh! It seems to me that not to many women value real friendships.
I get the impression that they only want other women to be there for them for when they're needed until they find a guy or get married. I do understand that a b.f, husband, and kids come first, but to completely disappear or start acting a lot more distant and ignoring almost all calls and emails is rude. Does any other women notice that too and wonder why it's so hard to make female friends? Some women seem to have no trouble making friends with other women wherever they go and I wish that I knew their secret!
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