I think this thread helped me be more honest with a friend of mine today. I cancelled on her yesterday for our plans today and she texted me a little while ago asking how i was feeling. It upset me. So i told her that - that it felt like after the recent contact with my family, i felt like i was on code orange, and her asking me how i was feeling upset me. Anyway it turned out good. And yeah i could not resist the raincheck!!