I am not married... but yes, that would absolutely drive me crazy. Doesn't that count as a "dual relationship"? I would not feel safe or contained if my T were also seeing my husband (or ANY family member... heck or even a close friend!) - it doesn't seem like good practice ot me. I'd be worried that something would get leaked (either something that I said in private would make it back to husband, or something husband said would affect T's reactions to me).

Did you actually talk about any of this with T? Has your husband actually started seeing him? I'm sorry that your husband is being an insensitive lout - more than the T stuff - I think I'd be angry at the husband for not understanding that this is important and necessary.

Sorry Petra5ed...